“Squirting” is often considered female ejaculation. But there are a lot of misconceptions about what squirting is, what it implies, and whether it equates to an orgasm. This article tells you everything you need to know about squirting.
What is squirting?
Squirting is the release of fluids from people with vulvas when they’re sexually stimulated. The fluid released is a combination of various bodily fluids, including urine, urea, uric acid, and creatinine. They’re released by the Skene’s gland at the bottom of the urethra.
Is squirting the same as female ejaculation?
Squirting is often described as female ejaculation, but there’s a notable difference between the two terms. The tendency to conflate the two happens because we conflate the male model of ejaculation to people with vulva, but the two are interchangeable.
Squirting occurs through clitoral stimulation, G-spot stimulation, or a combination of the two. It can also happen without orgasms. However, ejaculation is a small amount of fluid released by the urethral glands (not the Skene’s gland) during the time of orgasm.
What does squirting feel like?
The typical sensations associated with squirting are as varied as they are with orgasms. Everyone has a unique experience, so everyone’s likely to give a different answer. Some say squirting feels completely different from an orgasm; others say it’s indistinguishable from an orgasm.
Some say that squirting is an intense release that goes beyond an orgasm — a little gift that comes after the ejaculation if you go on touching your G-spot. However, some say the pressure on the urethra while squirting also makes them want to pee, which places a psychological burden on the act.
Some transgender and non-binary individuals love squirting because it feels like gender-affirmation. While squirting isn’t the same as male ejaculation, and all transgender men don’t have the same experience, the sensation of squirting can be affirming for some because it’s close jizzing.
However, there’s no consensus on what squirting feels like. The best way to determine what squirting feels like is to stimulate your clitoris and G-spot. You can guide your sexual partner to do it, use your fingers, or, better yet, use a clitoral suction sex toy that stimulates your entire clitoral structure.
Can everyone squirt?
Whether everyone can or does squirt is a matter of debate. There have been considerable amounts of curiosity about squirting, with lots of studies aiming to determine the frequency or unanimity of the experience amongst people with vulvas. However, the results are often conflicting.
Scientifically, experts argue that anyone with a vulva has the right parts or structures to squirt. But that doesn’t mean everyone with a vulva can or will squirt. According to estimates, around 10 to 50 percent of individuals with vulvas squirt, a pretty wide margin to make any conclusive statement.
However, it’s important to remember one valid point — the ability to squirt isn’t any better or worse, more or less normal than not squirting. All options are completely valid and natural, and you shouldn’t feel ashamed or bad about not being able to squirt.
How can you squirt?
As mentioned earlier, squirting depends on G-spot stimulation, clitoral stimulation, or a combination of the two. To start the process, you can prepare your surroundings by laying down a few towels or get into a bathtub to avoid making a mess — unless, of course, you don’t mind a mess.
Estimates about the amount of release vary widely. Some say they squirt a teaspoon amount. Others say they gush like a fountain has exploded. If you’re not sure where you fall on that spectrum, it’s best to prepare for the latter. You can also set the mood with some scented candles and music.
If you’re going solo, it’s best to work with lube and a sex toy. Instead of dildos, you should get clitoral vibrators or clitoral suckers. Vibrators directly stimulate your clitoral tip. And clitoral suction toys release sonic pulses to indirectly stimulate the entire clitoris. The latter is often more powerful and resonant.
You can find the G-spot a few inches inside the vaginal wall — it’s a bit of spongy tissue. You can reach for it with your fingers or use the clitoral suction toy. The best part about using a clitoral sucker is that you don’t have to make direct contact.
Biird’s Obii is particularly well-suited to stimulate the G-spot. You can lie on your back, use lube, and insert the toy. Move the toy against the front vaginal wall and play with the settings. You can set it on vibrate for direct stimulation or deliver the sonic pulses for indirect stimulation.
As you use the toy, you can also explore your erogenous zones or have your partner lick your sensitive areas. Try touching your neck, ears, nipples, inner thighs, or other sensitive parts of your body. These areas have nerve endings that release waves of pleasure responses.
As you ride the sensation, you might feel like you need to pee, but don’t stop. If you feel like you need to pee, that means you’re on your way. Ride the feeling until you feel the release. Stop when you’re done, or keep going. The choice is all yours.
What if you can’t squirt?
There’s nothing wrong with not being able to squirt. Some individuals squirt easily, some squirt for the first time in their 50s or 60s, and some never squirt at all. There’s nothing wrong with any of them. Celebrate and pleasure yourself in whatever way fits your body’s needs. That’s all the matters.