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The Best Kinky Sex Positions for Beginners

Let’s start with a simple question: what’s your craziest sexual fantasy? Perhaps you’re thinking about being tied up by your partner, or perhaps you’d like to tie your partner up. Maybe you want to engage in some cosplay or role-playing scenarios. Or maybe you just want to switch up your sexual roles and positions in bed. These are all examples of kinky sex. Some people think kinky sex only refers to dangerous sexual activities, but kinky sex can also refer to something as simple as oral sex.

The word “kink” used to have extremely negative connotations in the past. When standardized and socially accepted sex was restricted to procreative, penetrative sex (preferably in the missionary position) between heterosexual and married couples, the word “kink” could encompass a wide range of sexual acts now deemed perfectly normal, such as oral sex. As such, the term “kinky sex” doesn’t have a fixed meaning — it simply refers to sexual acts and positions that still fall slightly outside what’s deemed socially normative.

Whatever your sexual fantasy, sexual fetish, or desire might be, it’s completely okay to indulge in your kinky goals. As long as you are safe and respect your partner’s wishes, desires, and consent. Before you try a new kinky sex position, please discuss it with your partner to ensure they’re also keen… you must have your partner’s enthusiastic consent to engage in kinky sex, whatever that might be. If you and your partner want to experiment with kinky positions in the bedroom, you’ve come to the right place.

Below, we describe some of the kinkiest sex positions to spruce up your sex life.

Heels Over Head

If youre feeling stretchy and flexible, you can try this position. You have to spread your legs and allow your partner to grab your ankles, lifting your legs high up in the sky. Once your partner lifts your legs and holds them apart, your thighs will be wide open, and youll feel a deep stretch on your hamstrings. The individual on the bottom is in a submissive position because theyre allowing their partner to control the movement. The dominating partner can also introduce light rope play or cuffs to make it even kinkier.

Table Top

The tabletop is an extremely versatile and kinky sex position that can be done on a kitchen countertop, table, bed, or any other flat surface. The receiving partner lies down flat on the table-like surface. While the receiving partner is lying down on the table or bed, the giving partner thrusts inwards. If the standing partner has the strength, they can also hold the receiving partner up, which makes things even kinkier. While selecting a flat surface for this position, ensure its edge is at crotch height with the standing partner.

69

The 69 is widely considered one of the kinkiest positions for mutual oral satisfaction. To execute this position, one partner must lie down on their back, and the other partner sits on them, facing upside down. Each partners head should be against their partners crotch. Both partners can now perform oral simultaneously, or one of the partners can use a vibrator or clitoral sucker for penetrative pleasure. This is a simple and effective way to add some kink into your usual sex life, and it allows both partners to receive and give pleasure simultaneously. We recommend our latest clitoral stimulator Namii as a perfect add-on to your bedroom, thanks to its unique mood lamp feature.

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Blindfold Sex

Introducing a blindfold into any sexual act can instantly make it kinkier. The receiving partner can be blindfolded and perhaps restrained with ropes to make the anticipation of the sexual pleasure uncertain and more pronounced. Temporarily removing the sense of sight enhances the individual’s ability to experience sex more fully. Every little touch from the partner will feel more unexpected and heightening, and the uncertainty of not knowing where the next touch will come makes things more arousing. The blindfold can be introduced into any sexual act to make it kinky.

Champagne Room

The Champagne Room is a deceptively simple but kinky sex position. The premise for this position is simple. The penetrative partner sits on a chair or the edge of a bed, and the receiving partner sits on top of them, facing away. The receiving partner can move up and down on their partners lap according to their comfort. This position is particularly kinky because it offers an opportunity to disconnect and pretend that youre strangers. For the partner on the bottom, watching their partner go down on them can be incredibly sexy.

Face Sitter

Face Sitter is a fairly self-explanatory position. One of the partners lies down on their back while the other partner sits on their face and straddles the head. The partner on the bottom can take their partners crotch in the mouth, either eating them out or sucking their penis. The partner on top can gyrate their hips or lean back to play with the partners crotch. This position is ideally done near a bedpost or wall for balance. This position is incredibly kinky and sexy without being difficult or complicated.

The Giraffe

The Giraffe is an excellent oral sex position for kinky beginners. The partner who is delivering oral sex lies flat on the bed, their head lying close to the edge. The other partner stands against the bed and leans in, allowing the giving partner to perform an oral. Meanwhile, the receiving partner can explore their partners erogenous zones or lean in and play with their crotch. This dynamic is exciting enough without additional accoutrements, but it can be made kinkier with the introduction of restraints and blindfolds.

Rough Doggy

Rough Doggy is similar to a traditional doggy style position, but it has some extra steps and movements. The receiving partner gets down on all fours while the giving partner kneels on the bed behind them and enters from the rear. The giving partner holds the receiving partner’s hair and pulls while thrusting inwards. The giving partner can also slap the receiving partner’s buttocks, tweak their nipples, or grab their neck lightly. This sex position allows you to engage in kinky acts with some familiarity.

About Author
Ellie Cooper
Ellie is a freelance writer and pleasure enthusiast. She is very comfortable talking about vaginas, scaling mountains and eating spicy food, but not parallel parking. She lives with a very tubby cat named Charles who likes to get involved with the writing process by sleeping on her keyboard.
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